You won’t be alone at the opera

You won’t be alone at the opera


norman lebrecht

February 06, 2019

Opera Australia has a new scheme to tempt singles of all ages not to be ashamed to come alone.

Opera for One is not “Tinder for opera lovers” or a singles’ programme, says Opera Australia. It responds to a survey of 1100 first-time opera-goers and those who’d like to go but hadn’t that found more than one in five people surveyed didn’t attend because they had nobody to go with.

“It is not romantic in the slightest,” said John Quertermous, OA’s head of marketing and tourism. “It is more the idea that they’ll find an opera buddy. As a classical art company, we are always trying to get new people and a new audience.”

Read on here.


  • John Rook says:

    Sounds like a pretty good idea. Why not, after all?

  • SVM says:

    Almost invariably, I go to concerts alone, principally at the Wigmore Hall, where I feel very welcome. I go to concerts to listen to music live, not to socialise (although I do sometimes speak to fellow audience-members, ushers, &c., especially if I already know them… it is a small world). Moreover, I prefer to make my own decisions as to which performances I wish to attend, without having to consult anyone else.

    • Lausitzer says:

      “Small world” means in my experience simply being recognized as regular and thus subject of subtle, unobtrusive socializing that takes away any weird feelings with going alone (which, by the way, has another advantage: you can almost always take that single seat left between the pair or group bookings).

      Thus I find it a bit sorry that there is a need for such a formalized program at all. It should, from the start, not have been a horrible experience for a widow to go again after her husband and she were long-standing subscribers. Did no one recognize her?

  • RW2013 says:

    Something for Sue Sonata Form. You might meet some eye candy.

    • Thomasina says:

      But she has a husband who travels from Australia to Austria in a business class to accompany her the concerts.

  • We privatize your value says:

    Sadly, the Sydney Morning Herald article says nothing about the young brunette beauty whose picture adorns this page. But I was baited and I clicked, so everything is fine! 🙂

  • RW2013 says:

    Considering that the majority of audiences is on a permanent date with it’s phone, where’s the problem?

  • brian says:

    Long, long ago, before the Intarwebs had been invented, I became a member of the Classical Music Lovers Exchange, a snail-mail dating service in NYC for those of us who went to concerts alone and wondered what it might be like to have company. Over a year or so, I met a few mildly interesting women who appeared to have an equally mild interest in me, slept with none of them, and finally decided it was okay after all to go to the opera or the concert hall alone. Music is so intensely personal, intimate by itself — I recall once going to see Arrau at CH and not being able to talk or interact with anyone for a full day after the concert.

    But it was a fascinating experience to have a physical mailbox regularly populated with names, phone numbers, and sometimes photos of women who had responded to the Exchange expressing interest in my published profile. And now it seems a delightfully primitive and daring thing to do…